Choose rice. Choose a Hagwon. Choose no career. Choose a co-teacher. Choose a big f**king severance pay. Choose smartphones, orange taxis, DSLRs and T-money cards. Choose bad health, alcoholism and $50 AIDS tests. Choose a pension scheme. Choose an officetel. Choose stupid English names for your kids. Choose a Korean girlfriend who’s far too hot for you. Choose Cass Red and wondering who the f**k you are on a Sunday afternoon. Choose lying on that floor mat reading mind numbing, spirit crushing posts on Daves ESL cafe stuffing ramen into your mouth. Choose flying home at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable call centre, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, f**ked up brats you used to teach everyday.
This is a link to my friend Max’s company Sinbad Adventure Co. He offers a variety of outdoor activities and trips that are very unique. Last year, he took a group of skiers to Mt. Baekdoo in North Korea, which is the highest mountain in the Korean peninsula. If you’re in Korea and you want some outdoor fun, click on the link and check it out!
while they were visiting Korea briefly. Mark, I and someone else whose name I forget took them to Namdaemun. A really chill couple. I think she was from Taiwan and Kevin’s from the states. Very nice people who were cruising by the city. Little did I know back then they were partners in crime trotting the globe with no end in sight! How they fund their endless trips and how they NEVER get tired of traveling is beyond me. but i suppose it’s not what’s important. Go look at their streams and their amazing pictures and experience the world vicariously. but more importantly u’ll also feel how close they are and the passion and energy for life they intimately share. truly truly awesome love. can’t say I’m not jealous at all. :)
I see people around me who are breaking up with whom they supposedly had been in love with. people get together and break up all the time. but I once fell hard for someone and it took me something like two years to get over him. that was ages ago and i’m a different person now, but still.. It is really confusing to see my friends being so rational, if not nonchalant, about their breakup.
Which brings me to the conclusion that being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in love with each other. Of course that brings to the discussion of what it means to be in love and what constitutes being in a relationship and all that. I love u really, but i’m not IN love with you. that kinda stuff. not that i buy it… well.. maybe.. sort of.
But my question is what is the point of being in a relationship if you’re not in love with the person?
I suppose I can think of many excuses: you’re emotionally lonely and insecure or u need sex and/or can’t be physically alone or u enjoy the little perks of having a boyfriend or girlfriend who can provide things u need.
Which confirms my belief that being in a relationship is not really what matters. Most of the time people don’t really understand what it means to be in a relationship, granted it has different meanings for everyone.
However, people have been so immune to the ideas of reluctantly disposing a relationship and rationalizing it with some lame excuses. And they try to move on. Some as quickly as possible.
But ti’s not so easy for some people. There are actually two kinds of those people. For the first group it’s not easy to move on because, simply put, they can’t get over the “idea” of the person they thought they were in love with. Most of those relationship were not really healthy in some ways.
The second group is the ones who really truly loved each other for what it was with all their heart, did everything they could to make things happen and stay together and they gave it all without compromising who they are as an individual and it still wasn’t meant to be. And they suffer. And that suffering, that heartbreak really hurts. THAT heartbreak is something not everyone needs to go through. Instead of trying to brush it off, or thinking that something was wrong with me or him or regretting i should’ve done this and that, knowing that you gave it all and knowing that you both were being genuine with each other and did everything you could to sustain the beautiful tangent of love is enough to tear you apart and break you down into dysfunctional pieces that are not recognizable.
I’m hopping on and I think i can go on for some time. But what I initially meant to say is that experiencing such a heartbreak and eventually getting over it helps you see more beautiful elements in people and, more importantly, in yourself. and you become more hopeful that you will meet someone like that again, but this time you can do better.
True heartaches, in reality, seem like a rare thing to witness these days.